Working through infidelity is challenging. It requires massive amounts of vulnerability and energy from both partners. But your relationship isn't doomed if there has been infidelity. You can recover from infidelity and it can even, in some cases, lead to a stronger partnership than ever.
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As you and your partner move through your journey, several things can support your recovery and bring you closer together.

The internet has massively changed the way that porn is accessed and consumed. Once you had to visit the local newsagency, furtively pick up the magazine of choice and slide it onto the counter for payment. Or make a trip to the closest adult shop to order a DVD which you may have to wait weeks to be delivered. And let's not forget the curtained-off space at the local video rental store.

Now, the vast majority of porn is watched on the internet. You can watch it in the comfort of your own home or other location of your choosing that has an internet connection.

Porn is, literally, at your fingertips. 

​​Sexual desire is complex. It’s multi-dimensional, multi-causal and multi-layered.
 
When we think of lower libido, we typically think of women. It’s common to hear stories of women who don’t feel waves of lust coursing through them. Low sexual desire in women has been normalised to the point that “Not tonight honey, I have a headache” is a trope we have all heard on TV.
 
What about men who don’t feel the spontaneous, frequent, gripping urge to throw their partner to the bed and rip off their clothes? This isn’t something we often consider. Society sees men as hungry beasts, always wanting sex.

​It's something most men don't want to discuss. It's the elephant in the room and yet it is so common. While the experience varies, erectile dysfunction is the leading sexual concern for men worldwide.

People experience erectile dysfunction in many different ways. Your erection may not be as hard as you'd like. Maybe you can't stay hard. It could be that you don't get an erection at all. Erectile dysfunction can come with feelings of lower sexual desire. It may be something you experience all the time or only sometimes.